Too Much?

Lately many friends have commented on how deep, transparent, or sad my blog has become. My question has been: too sad? too transparent? too deep?

All of the grief info says to not make any major decisions in the next 12 months, but I'm thinking adding another blog isn't what they are talking about (no job transfers to the West Coast for us right now). So that's my question: should I add a grief blog and focus on the process that I'm going through in hopes that it will help someone in google land going through a similiar situation? I think stories about how my five year old typically picks rather professional type adults to be evil orges (such as Jake's lawyer uncle or my Sunday School teacher) for him to fight using his power ranger moves isn't what they want to read. Also, many of you would probably rather skip the saddness and go right to the above mentioned power ranger story.

So do I keep Tales of a Stay-at-Home mom (but maybe change the name since I might no longer be one) and another grief focused blog (title needed as well) or do I leave it all here in one big hodgepodge?

11 comments:

laura said...

well, i want to hear it all - the good, the bad, the crazy, the sad. so whether you just keep one blog or split to two, i'll still be reading. if you WANT to type more about your grieving process and you think you'd be more likely to express more in a separate blog, go for it.

Clarisse said...

I want to hear about you, the total of you! I think it might be difficult to separate yourself like that, but then again, maybe not. I support you in whatever decision you make, but I'm not put off by hearing about your grief and sadness. I grieve with you on the days you grieve and am happy for you on your good days a well!

Shelly said...

I second what Laura and Clarisse said. How about that? :)

You do what you want/need to do. If that means starting a new blog and seperating the two, then do it. If that means you continue to blog on here, do that as well. It's whatever YOU want to do and feel whats right.

I myself like reading what you write, whether it's transparent, happy, sad, angry, whatever. It's who you are and it's how you are dealing with things. BLOG AWAY my friend!

Love you!

jen said...

i agree with everyone else. whether it's sad, happy, silly, whatever. it's you! and i want to hear about you. i agree with clarisse...it might be hard to separate yourself like that. i understand that you might want to help someone who is looking for help via google, but it will direct them to certain posts, so you will still be able to help people that way. i really believe that if you keep the stories together, it will really help you process the grief a little bit. jenn, lafe and i are totally behind you all the way and support whatever decision you make. we will always be praying for you. we will grieve with you and be happy with you. if there is anything we can do, please let us know.

beegracious said...

agreed. whether it's tales of a stay at home mom AND tales of a grieving mom, or if it's tales of a stay-at-home-grieving mom, I'll be reading. it always helps me know how to pray.

j said...

I think it is important for people to know what you are going through and the pain you have felt for many reasons. First, this is you right now and you can't be expected to put on a 'happy' face just to please others. Second, your dear friends like to know how to pray for you and and your needs. Finally, if people don't want to read the sad blogs, they won't, but I would think it would help you to vent and release some of the pain you are feeling. I want more than anything for that pain to go away for you, but know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. Unfortunately, too many other mothers have experienced your hurt and I hope that one day you can meet someone that you can connect with and that they can relate to everything you have been through.

Brooke

pastorwick said...

yup - to the above comments. :) Thanks for being.

a moore said...

i don't care so much about dividing you into parts, i'm not that smart. one blog is good for me because its true.

NMCC Children's Ministries said...

Jenn, blogs are for the writer more than for the reader. You write what's on your heart. Let the reader decide if they want to come back. You're doing great. God bless.

Lisa said...

Jenn, I agree with everyone else, too. I think you just need to continue to be real and not worry about splitting your blogs. We all want to hear about everything, the funny things jonah does or the struggles you are feeling that day.
Praying for you!

Sarah Anne said...

Well put everyone! I agree... I want to hear it all. I want to know what is going on day to day and how you are feeling day to day.

Your blog is a good representation of you and your life.

What is the definition of a stay-at-home mom anyway? You are a mom and You are staying home to take care of your family. You were still a stay at home mom, even when Jonah was at pre-school. you are a stay at home mom even when he is in school every day. Your day will just be adjusted a bit, but you are definitely still a stay-at-home mom. So keep the blog! I love it!