Denial and Dissaproval

A few weeks ago I was discussing with a counselor friend how Jake and I wanted to talk to little J about something. She cautioned that he might not take it well.

She was right.

You would have thought that we had told him that there was a new law in our town banning super hero pajamas, orange juice, and PBS kids (all of our favs) instead of that he was going to be a big brother.

His response to "there is a baby in mommy's tummy" was first giggles and then "no there's not."

After a little convincing there was loud, vocal dissaproval:
"I don't want a baby"
"This is NOT good news"
and our favorite, though we don't know what it means: "I quit".

He went through those first stages of mourning pretty quickly and soon moved on to acceptance. He often asks how the baby is doing and reminds me to be careful. But he would rather tell people about his Super Heros Team video than the fact he is going to be a big brother. And he did come with me to hear the baby's heartbeat at my 15 week appointment this morning but it got old pretty quickly and asked to go to nurses station to talk about Power Rangers (which is what he did when he had to come with mommy to the doctor when he wasn't in the know).

10 comments:

sam said...

congratulations to you and to jake and to jonah! hooray! we're so happy for you guys. tell jonah he will be great for big brotherhood, and it will be great for him. being a big brother is good training for being a super hero later in life, because it teaches you how to take care of and watch over things that are smaller and need lots of help and protection.
(this is lisa, but i'm sure sam shares my sentiments)

food tv junkie said...
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food tv junkie said...

So any tips on how to break the news to Lucas?

Jonathan said...

Great news. And tactful way to announce it to the blogging world!

Now, let the unsolicited name suggestions come pouring in.

a moore said...

so is jessica pregnant too or is she trying to break the news to Lucas that you are having a baby and he may one day have a super hero friend.

I'm confused

JennT said...

We would love name suggestions, bring them on! As to Amanda's question, I can only make my own announcements...

Sara said...

I am so excited for you all! I am sure Jonah will get used to the idea and maybe even excited someday! And maybe you could make a "BB" logo to build on the super hero theme!

Steph H. said...

Congratulations . . . we let Aidan pick out things for his baby sibling to be, when we were expecting our second, and that seemed to help out. Yippee on such good news!

RHONDA said...

Oh my that is awesome. Good to hear we will have several tolbert babies in 08! IS there more info like how far a long are you ect

Monkey Toes said...

Congratulations! We will be praying for a happy, healthy pregnancy and babe.